A New and Better You

The most common way people give up their power
is by thinking they don’t have any. ~ Alice Walker
We all want to be happy. We all want to be libreated from worry, from boredon, to find peace within. To enjoy the
moment. We all want our health, to be strong, not to hurt, to not ache in the mornings, to wake feeling refreshed
and alive again. And you can. The control is yours. You only need to become proactive, to be mindful of the moment,
to slow down and work through the necessary steps to become the person you want to be and gain the life you
desire. You can do it. The power is yours. It might be hard at first. You will have to push yourself, but the rewards
are so worth it once you get there. You will look better, feel better, think better, and feel proud of yourself after only
a few week.

The old adadage "It only take 21 days to break a habit" is not quiet as true as we thought. It turns out that
everyone is differnt. Some lucky people can switch on and off a behaivor in a matter of days. For others it takes
months. Science has disconvered that trading an old behavior for a new one is much more effective.

"It's much easier to start doing something new than to stop doing something habitual without a replacement
behaviour," says neuroscientist Elliot Berkman. "That's one reason why smoking cessation aids such as nicotine gum
or inhalers tend to be more effective than the nicotine patch."


Honestly look at your life and look at yourself. In your heart you know what is keeping you from being a better
person. Take an honest look and decide what habit is keeping you from your goal. The first step to changing your life
is to identify what it is that you want to change and have a desire to do the work to change it. Through awareness
and ambition you can turn your energy to becoming the person you want to be.
Live in the present. If you let you life become too busy you will miss it all together. Fare a million different things
going on, I’m really trying to remember to focus on where I am right now, rather than worrying about what I’m doing
later or should have done earlier. I find that when I’m focusing on what’s happening around me, the people I’m with
and the things that I’m doing I am so much happier. So when I was looking for this week’s quote I wanted it to be
something that resonated with this idea, and this one was perfect…
Don't let the hurry and worry of life take the magic out of your existence. We as a nation have forgotten the art of
conscious living. Unplug and take a conscious breath. This is your life you are missing. Put down that cell phone
when you are out on your walk. Be present in the here and now, and stop multitasking! If you are eating, then push
away that paper, book, phone and take a conscious bite. Be present and enjoy the flavor and texture of your food.
Allow yourself to revel in the rich taste, to savor the decadent scent. Give your spouse your full attention during your
conversations and be there in that moment when you send your child off for school or play. When we shift our
awareness back to the things that matter, it honors and allows them to regain their importance in our lives and
makes a way for the magical moments to exist, the moments that make life worth living.
I reflect on those who have become so monumental to my life within such a short time frame. What an impact
people, events and experiences have on us each and every day. None of this would exist however without a very key
ingredient. No joke to help fill the void of hopelessness of someone's recent diagnosis. No commentary added while
sharing dialogue with a small child, no bridge from a young millennial to the individual who is the last surviving
member of his marine's unit from WWII. All of these things which have become the functioning framework of our
society. The way we address someone. Compose ourselves in preparation for an interview. The optimism we feel
that there is something greater than ourselves to live for, to fight for. This is all expressed and molded most often
without our conscious understanding of it in real time. I would not be who I am today without it, and the likely hood
is neither would you. Inspired everyday by it in some form or another. This Key Ingredient is Art. Music. Sculpting.
Dancing. Film. Theater. Tattoos. Painting. Language. Love. Literature. Movement. Mastering a skill. Fashion. Design.
The list goes on and on. It often pays little and changes so much. Take a moment. Thank an artist.
Thanks for your post. I am curious about your use of the word "try". Why not take it out altogether, so say instead
"my biggest focus right now is living in the present" and "I'm really remembering to focus on where I am right now".
Otherwise "being present" can feel like another thing to achieve. The really beautiful thing about being present for
me is deep surrender to what is, in any moment. So right now, deep surrender. Give up trying. Blessings :)

Be Kind
Never underestimate the power of your words and actions. The smallest gesture can change someones life.

Your mind:
Change is a process. Today take the first step to a better you. Take an honest look at your attitude. Begin by
counting your blessings. Look at your life and decide to become mindful. Be being aware, you will be able to make
conscious choices and change the way you respond to people. By being aware of your reaction to others, and
responding mindfully with positive words, you will avoid habitual traps. When someone rubs you wrong, don't
become angry, don't hold grudges. Instead of becoming resentful and wasting all your energy, learn to forgive. When
you harbor animosity against a person or group of people, you become stuck in a nonproductive cycle of anger.
Learning to forgive fosters positive emotions and lends to a healthy lifestyle. The simple act of changing your
attitude gives you the ability to avoid the counterproductive emotions of anxiety and depression and instead find
happiness.

By choosing to react with a positive or peaceful response, we choose to be happy. Happiness is at your fingertips.
Through conscious choices you will reap huge rewards. When reacting to those around choose to smile more. Praise
yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic. The shift of your energy to these positive responses will
allow you to be happy, joyous, healthy and successful.


Adopt a daily meditation
Go for a walk, every day
Daily grounding with bare feet on the earth
Hug a tree
Drink more water
Eat more fresh orgainc fruits and vegetables
Make your own meals instead of take-out

Eat mindfully, at the table

Ditch junk food and sugar

Cut down or cut out alcohol
Say a bedtime prayer

Get enough sleep


Never underestimate the power of your words and actions. The smallest gesture can change someones life.

Take control of the flow of your life and slow down. Taking the time to gain that control will make all the difference
in the world. Here are a few things to help you on this quest:

Take time to meditate
The art of meditating is actually easier to learn than you might imagine. The key is finding a practice that works for
you and sticking with. Click here for more information on Mediation.


Stop multi-tasking.
Why are you trying to do so many things at once? You can’t stay sane if you’re trying to juggle your way through life
st a million miles a minute. If you are doing this, you are not being productive either. Focus on one thing at a time
being mindful of the moment.


Go outside
Connect to the natural world as you plan your day be aware of the turning of the wheel of the year, the changing
seasons and the cycle of the moon and celebrate


Let’s begin with your body:
Your body is a machine. To improve this machine, you must control the input and output by refining your diet and
getting exercise. This doesn't mean stop eating and join a gym. Start small, don't make it hard. Take out one
unproductive thing and add one positive thing and by the end of the month you will be a new you. Substitute water
for soda. Trade an hour walk, for an hour of watching TV. Eliminate fast food and processed snacks. Instead eat
fresh fruits and lots of green leafy vegetables and by changing the small things, you will change your lifestyle.
Remember a small step today will result in big changes in your future.


Your spirit:
The best medicine to heal the spirit is meditation. Meditation is the practice of focusing and quieting your mind to
achieve a heightened awareness of your inner spirit. When you shift your attention to each breath slowly and deeply
drawn and released, you shift your mind into a quiet mode, releasing your mind clutter. The result of this shift is
calmness and inspiration.

Incorporating a morning meditation into your daily routine will allow you to fill a well of peace at your center. It will
give your strength and fortitude to be able to stick with and accomplish the goals you’ve set. The practice of
meditation will allow you to improve mental functioning and attain greater intuition as you are granted access to
unconscious resources and abilities.

Be kind to yourself. Take time for yourself. Incorporate into your schedule activities you've wished to do. If you've
been meaning to take a yoga class, now is the time. Don't make excuses, don't put it off. If you've been toying with
the idea of learning a new skill or working on a hobby, now is the time. Don't let life pass you by. Your life belongs
to you. You have the power to make it the life you want to live. It is up to you and you alone to become the person
you want to be.